/lounge/ - sushi social

>>18539
Human beings are universally soaked in sin, by proxy of living in a fallen reality. But if you don't want to think about it in a religious sense, it's clear to see how human nature is flawed and selfish from a natural point of view also. Whatever form of love is most detached from sex is most spiritual, and whatever is attached to sex is the least. That is because the existence of the act of sex is (metaphorically) the result following the biblical Fall. Or materialistically, following the Big Bang, the necessary mechanism of evolution which is predicated on chance and chaos rather than any God ordained teleology. Why do I believe this, is because life in this universe, governed by darwinistic, cruel and uncaring mechanisms, principalities and powers turn it into a clearly *negative* sum game.

I mean yeah there were many traditions of mystics but I'd argue the majority of mystics who reached out for deeper forms of love throughout history were celibate. That's not to say they were hermits, or avoided the world because they were resentful or something, they just knew the base rabble and animal passions weren't even worth engaging with. It's is funny you mention Aristotle because his mentor Plato personifies perfectly what I just wrote. As far as we're aware he never married, he was celibate instead was focused on more meaningful matters such as studying the world and teaching it.

"Genuine love", as far as I understand, doesn't even require another person. It's more like a contemplative act. Any relationship with another person, particularly romantic, will involve chaos. I don't think avoiding this is running away or something, but instead the result of posessing wisdom of human behaviour. If an individual can subdue their loneliness or romantic inclination or redirect them towards something else as far as I'm concerned they have reached enlightenment. Additionally, I don't think people are locking themselves away because we live in a "weak" culture but quite the opposite. Rampant individualism, which focuses on the power of the individual will, has lead to the exacerbation of the worst of human traits and behaviours. In such an environment, to still idealise romance one would need to be a proper fool.

>>18560
It seems to me that your god is death.

>>18479
Hey! Sorry for not responding sooner, I got busy with life stuff. That 's one of the joys of slow boards though, they're at a comfy pace that doesn't replace life.

Agape can be mystical, it can be experienced in isolation or in community. I was just highlighting that love can be more than infatuation, a deep concern for the well-being of others and their betterment, an unconditional love - that's agape. I like to point to higher forms and get to the core of stuff. My emphasis was on the importance of relationship and community, and an encouragement to go out and seek it because even a little bit (like a circle of 2 friends) can change our life.

I'm not really trying to equate it to a spiritual experience. Maybe the way I phrased it came off that way, in which case I apologize. It is true that expecting friendships and relationships to be something they are not will lead to disappointment, but I'm not about that either. I've seen what it's like to be in nature, and I'm imploring you to go and see it for yourself instead of passing the chance while you're still alive to experience it. Life are people are beautiful if flawed, but it's worth it to go out and see it and experience it - it's a blessing.

I know there are things in our life that aren't in our control, but there are things that are in our control. We shouldn't limit ourselves with statements and beliefs about our inabilities and about where we are in life right now, and we shouldn't get lost chasing feelings and ideals that can be fickle. But we should be willing to pursue friendships and do what we can to grow in ourselves and realize our potential. Enjoy a feeling when it comes, like sunshine on a sunny day - and pursue relationships where they can be found, like hunting for a shiny gem. No one is "incapable", people are just at different points in their life. If you can lift 15lb that's worth celebrating, if you can lifht 150lb that's worth celebrating. I know that many people online are terrified of forming friendships and relationships because they are traumatized by bad experiences in their past and perhaps believe that its beyond their reach.

Comfyness is a bit subjective. I implore you to be the best version of yourself because I know that it makes life better. There's discomfort to going to the gym at first but in the long run you're healther and happiePost too long. Click here to view the full text.

>>18579
> I know that many people online are terrified of forming friendships and relationships because they are traumatized by bad experiences in their past and perhaps believe that its beyond their reach.
But I know that everyone is capable of change, and that everyone can heal. It's better to have tried than to wonder about what life would have been like if you had.

CARPE DIEM

>>18539
> I disagree
To clarify I don't mean that everything sucks because it's "stained by sin" - certainly not that we're "soaked" in it. I mean that reality isn't at its best like a cracked mirror or a dilapidated house, and that sin is the influence that is "what does it". That's a theological belief though, so you're free to differ on that. I'm not here to force anyone to subscribe to my theology. I'm just here to encourage people to life a full life and to transform because I empathize with where they're at (because I used to be there).

> Genuine love involves pain and suffering. Its bittersweet and it hurts. Without that we can't grow. Chaining yourself up to avoid the hurt that comes with human interaction is stunting yourself through lack of courage to face the world. God didn't put that heart in your chest so you'd never use it. Fear of pain is probably why so many people lock themselves away and we're validated by a culture that says its okay to run away from hurt or that weakness is a bad thing.
You got it! We're all born to grow, we can't life our lives in the same state forever. Life can hurt sometimes, being vulnerable is scary, but it's all worth it. I've never met a person on their death bed who regretted spending time with their family, friends, lovers, etc. Living a life of isolation as a conscious being is like living a flightless life as a bird.

>>18562
They're certainly limiting themselves like I used to. Feels like watching a goose that tries to justify why it doesn't want to fly, perhaps because they're afraid they may fall.

>>18557
Biribiri~!

>>18559
ZAP

>>18520
I visualised the consequences of not doing it, spiralling into a life threatening outcome. Then I thought about how great I would feel once it's done.

I just put it off until I absolutely have to do it or it's too late to do anything. More often than not it's the latter. I wish I knew how to change.

You can make it…

A 17-year-old German teen has been living life as a modern nomad, leaving his parents’ house to live on trains and travel all over his country.

While most 17-year-olds are only just beginning to consider the idea of leaving the nest, Lasse Stolley has already been on his own for over a year and a half. Convinced that his school studies were already behind him, he convinced his parents to allow him to leave their home in Fockbek, Schleswig-Holstein to embark on a unique train-hopping adventure. It took a lot of convincing, but they eventually agreed, and for the last year and a half, the German teen has essentially been living on trains, traveling all over his home country, working as a self-employed coder during the day, and sleeping on night trains at night.

“I’ve been living on the train as a digital nomad for a year and a half now,” Lasse told Business Insider. “At night I sleep on the moving Intercity Express (ICE) train and during the day I sit in a seat, at a table and work as a programmer, surrounded by many other commuters and passengers. I travel from one end of the country to the other. I’m exploring the whole of Germany.”

He gave into his wanderlust in 2022, selling most of his possessions and packing what was left in a 36-liter backpack that he has been carrying with him ever since. Minimalism and resisting the urge to acquire new stuff are an essential part of his lifestyle, as he needs to take everything with him wherever he goes. It’s not always easy, but he has found a way to make it work.

https://www.odditycentral.com/news/german-teenager-left-parents-home-to-live-exclusively-on-trains-for-the-last-year-and-a-half.html

https://www.businessinsider.de/leben/bahncard100-17-jaehriger-lebt-seit-jahr-2022-in-den-zuegen-der-bahn/

>>7935
Be sure you've got some money in a savings account. Getting out of poverty is very difficult (by design).

>>18517
Yeah, being poor ain't cheap

>>18508
living the dream

Sunday? Rainday.

>>18492
And then BOOM

Having the window open while it's raining, so I can hear it.

Being able to snuggle in a cozy blanket on a winter night

The comfort of my home and it's scenery, especially on a bright night. Also, solitary peace.

Blondes make me happy
>>17241
>>18524

Black to play
Gheorghiu vs J Diez del Corral
https://www.chessgames.com/perl/chessgame?gid=1154647&m=33.5

White to play
Tal vs W R Chandler
https://www.chessgames.com/perl/chessgame?gid=1140189&m=22

White to play
E Alekseev vs Karjakin
https://www.chessgames.com/perl/chessgame?gid=1503862&m=42

White to play
J Sarkar vs F Obers
https://www.chessgames.com/perl/chessgame?gid=1448321&m=36

Black to play
C Li vs X Bu
https://www.chessgames.com/perl/chessgame?gid=1546261&m=20.5

>>11803
A bit late, but I never bought a Saab, nice cheap examples got sold before I could call. Bought a VW Polo instead and I loved it. Now I have a newer Mazda MX-5 which I love even more. The MX-5 is so much fun on the narrow and bumpy roads we have around here.

>>18373
For sure. At least with regards to the suspension, and even the steering to an extent, that can be improved relatively easily. I'd much rather have a good drivetrain. Unfortunately it's so good that K20s are ridiculously expensive, not that I plan on blowing mine up. EP and FK's are great as well. I prefer the FL over the FK personally but I'd be happy with either.

And yeah Accords are great, if a clean CG shows up I would definitely try and get it. I looked up more on the CN2's and they look nice, especially the wagon variant. What happened to yours?

>>18386
Those roads wouldn't happen to be near Swanwick would they?

>>18401
Sold it on and bought the e87. I loved it, but my partner and I wanted to get one car that could do both our needs.
It was the top spec wagon with all sorts of silly features (Like a DVD drive just for loading maps onto the sat nav). Had a very hard life, but never let us down.

>>18453
Central parts of norway. Even the main E-roads can be nice and twisty, but the more rural roads have less traffic.

>>18453
>Had a very hard life, but never let us down.
To me stuff like that had always been a matter of perspective. It may have had a hard life but if something was made to endure that then on some level I think it's respectful to make sure it can fulfill that purpose. It's why I somewhat feel conflicted to see cars meant to be driven kept in unreasonably pristine condition.

Conversely, if there was a reason to get a different car that fit a different need then I can see why you had to sell it. That's just how things end up sometimes, as uninsightful that may be.

>>7003
Packing my bag as I'm going on a day trip tomorrow

Cookin' pasta and cuddlin'

Sleeping; sleep debt is a thing…

Saturday morning is meeting with my bros to play boardgames and cards and vidya.

>>18256
Let's play some games…

For real dude. 599 dollars? For a fucking sausage? We truly live in a clown world.

>>11793
look at the size of it though

sausage has no games

>>11793
Well the thread is about suffering, after all.

>>11793
It's premium iberia pork sausage with truffles

Some I couldn't think of responses for because autism :P

>>11281
world's biggest swans hater is a goreshit fan

honestly i respect it

Tried to do this for the third time, but I lack the patience to finish it.

This is entertaining

>>10447
figure i'd do this again just to see the differences now

Love this thread!

Embrace life
https://longreads.com/2024/04/02/i-nearly-died-drowning-maggie-slepian/